It seems Ji-in may have had other reasons for moving her blog. She's a big girl, and isn't intimidated by Self-righteous a-parents. Which makes sense, as they are only hurting themselves. I was actually in awe of the patience and courtesy she was able to show people who appeared to deserve very little of either.

Either way, you are right that Amber did a good job of assessing the situation. Now will someone please help me believe we can help change the before-mentioned Self-righteous a-parents through intelligent dialog? I so want to believe that!

Angry? Maladjusted? Bloody hell, things never f-ing change. It's just a new set of jerks every time you turn around.

Takes me back, I tell you, takes me back. Those two do seem to be the favored labels for any adoptee who speaks up about, well, pretty much anything. Unless we are all sunshine and smiles and think the whole thing is just fabulous and we're so grateful and how dare anyone besmirch the perfect adoption process anywhere in the world... then we are angry and maladjusted.

So we talk and talk and talk and talk for years and years and years and years and yeah, some folks DO understand. And then some of us give up for a while, because every day there's someone new calling us angry and maladjusted.

The world suddenly seems very large and scary when the labels keep coming after all this time.

Well, this turned into a rant, and Amber did say it very well, as did you. I was sorry to see what her first comment was (point, missed!), but what can ya do.

And, Scott, HA! at your "behave" comment. It ain't all bad... there's folks out there like OmegaMom and now you.

Sucks....I think I know who you are talking about. I only got the chance to read from her blog once and would have liked the chance to read it agian. Maybe she'll rethink???

Sucks....I think I know who you are talking about. I only got the chance to read from her blog once and would have liked the chance to read it agian. Maybe she'll rethink???

I exchanged email with her yesterday, and as Scott said, she moved her blog for other reasons totally unrelated to the brouhaha over the NYT article (although everything you say about said brouhaha is still true.)

She specificially told me that she eats self-righteous a-parents for breakfast. Heehee!

Yes, our voices are important! I just wanted to stop in and thank you for saying so, it's a refreshing attitude that you have.

The adoptive parent links on my blog are sparse so I'm glad I ran across yours!

Thanks Omega!