Oh, lordy.  It's a variant on the "just relax" advice.  Resorts and spas are promoting "Procreation vacations".

May I just make the delicate observation that someone who has tried for two whole months is not exactly a person in "need" of such services?

My infertile readers have my deepest sympathy.  You'll be hearing this one for quite a while, I'm sure.  "Just go drink some of those mystery Caribbean fertility remedies!"

A little piece of advice for folks who hand out the time-worn "just relax" advice:  most couples go into the baby-making biz quite relaxed.  After all, it's just a case of Tab A in Slot B, squirm around a little, have fun, have an orgasm (hopefully!), and whammo-blammo, baby!

Right?

I mean, I've heard that's the way it works.

Most people just expect it to work that way.  No stress, no fuss, no muss, no bother--just decide it's time to make a baby, and *boom*, there it is.

People who are stressed about baby-making from the beginning (lacking any prior knowledge of fertility problems) are likely to be stressed about a lot of stuff.  Type A types.  Maybe they need such a vacation.

But the problem is that people who really are having difficulties in the baby-making area of life are the ones who will hear this advice.  Over and over and over again.

This whole aspect of life is long gone for OmegaDad and me, and I rarely think of it at all these days.  (A blessed relief.)  But every once in a while, something like this just slaps me upside the haid, and it makes me want to stomp my feet and shriek in frustration. 

Do me a favor.  If you're not struggling to get pregnant, or never had any difficulties, and you have friends who are, don't refer them to this article.  Because if they've gotten to the point of telling you they're having problems, it's a foregone conclusion that they're either some of those previously mentioned Type A types, or else they're well on the way to medical intervention of some sort (or adoption).  And if they're that far on the IF road, any well-meant "just relax"--however disguised--will only infuriate them.

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